I think it’s a pretty justifiable fear that many people have
of being laughed at. If we’re honest with ourselves we’ll admit that it affects
us more that we’re proud of…it’s why for some every item of clothing needs to
have a luxury label on it (regardless of if they can truly afford it), or why in
spite of that fact others have closets full of clothing they still complain
about having nothing to wear, and God forbid the teenager next door be seen
wearing the same thing twice in one week. The point I’m making is that the fear
of standing out, of not fitting in holds us back from a lot of things we desire
to do in life. This topic comes up in the Vintage Community all the time mostly
because while many people love the fashions and styles of yesteryear, to bring
them into today kind of makes you stand out like a sore thumb doesn’t it. It’s
one thing to have that single unique vintage handbag, jacket or really gorgeous
piece of jewelry that everyone loves, you may be stepping outside of the box
but you’re still controlling it. You get to smile and enjoy the compliments
when everyone asks where you got it from and how much thy love it. But when you’re
dressing and acting in a manner that is blatantly from another time day in and
day out, well; that’s something different. Something that people don’t
understand at all. (Lol hell for all the stares you get you mine as well be a Goth)
In fact in my personal opinion it takes more than just a “high opinion of
yourself”.
I know
what you’re thinking “yeah, yeah, yeah all I want to know it how do I get
people to not stare at me? How do I not look like a joke?”
Well…You
can google this question a million times, watch countless pinup/vintage
lifestyle gurus that will all have their own formula for this very question.
They’re ever a million YouTube posts on the subject but the truth is… It’s all
BULL. There’s nothing you can do that will stop people from staring, let’s face
it in a world where jeans, and tee-shirts are the extent of the general
public’s fashion knowledge you are going to look out of place walking down the
street with a pair of black Maryjanes and Cuban heel stocking under a
full-skirt day dress with a crinoline slip underneath and your hair in victory
rolls (as utterly fabulous as you and I both know you look). It comes with the
territory, People either aren’t going to understand or will think you’re in costume,
some will love it, some will stare just for the hell of it, and some will hate
it. You just need to be strong in your choice because anything that’s different
will always invite attention and ridicule at times. However as far as looking
like a joke? Well that; I can help you with.
I
personally go by a saying ‘it only becomes a joke when it stops being you’.
Like with anything else you need to keep in mind your personality, your body
type and your essence per say to help you really determine what’s believable on
you. Keep this in mind when shopping,
you don’t want to buy random pieces and just be all over the place. Just like
with modern clothing there is a time and place for certain outfits and more
importantly certain styles look better on certain people (it’s a fact of life).
Also if you don’t feel comfortable in what you have in people can sense and you
will invite attention. In the end finding your niche is the key to stopping
yourself from looking costumed, which is what we Dolls don’t want. A good way
to do this it by narrowing yourself down. Determine which era looks best on you
and using your body type is the perfect way to do it. . Throughout history even
though the standard of beauty has ever evolved it has consistently always been associated
with the body. To help give you a frame of reference these are the classic body
type classifications according to how they would have been defined during our mom’s
time (or grandma whatever).
